Today I want to share a thought not very popular. I hear these type of comments every day: “Be natural people, tired of manipulation”, “Be yourself, be authentic”, “Share your emotions, it’s natural”. Let’s check out what is manipulation. Personally, I do not like when people lie to me. And in advance, I will tell the truthful message “I want to sell you the product for 1000 dollars because I need money.” How often have you heard something like this?
So at first I checked Google, not to share just my thoughts.
the action of manipulating something in a skilful manner.
“the format allows fast picture manipulation.”
the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way.
“there was no deliberate manipulation of visitors’ emotions.”
I’m going to talk about the second option “the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way.” So when we use emotions and persuasion in our communication, we do manipulate the public. For example, you write deeply personal posts to various groups. You put a catchy headline which grabs people’s attention via an emotional hook. And people read it. Now when you share such things with friends, you do not throw headlines to them. You just share because you are sharing you do not expect anything back. When you throw you mega emotional, private, best headline ever, to the bunch of unknown people you are planning something. You do expect that people will follow you and eventually buy something from you. Even the biggest teachers who we admire and know sell us something.
So, when some new marketers manipulate your mind by telling you that you have to be yourself and show your emotions to the public; they do teach you how to sell via emotional manipulations. The only difference between old school marketers in such a situation that they know and admit that they manipulate the audience and the neo marketers hide it.
Here’s another fact which I want to share with you. In the market where 90% of communication is built around emotional content to dig deep inside the customer’s mind, your true message will sound silly.
Remember? “I want to sell you the product for 1000 dollars because I need money.”
Check it out. “When I started my business I had no clue what am I doing and how to popularise it Facebook for free. I was wondering in various groups and was commenting, but had no feedback; there was a time when I was posting six seven times in a day to every group. But I got crickets; no one responded, no one wanted to work. No one noticed me, though I earned some friends, I didn’t make money.
Sounds familiar? I was just like you. I was overwhelmed and discouraged. Lost and frustrated I thought to leave the business.
So I understood I need to have a system, after all, I made it for my clients all my life. It sound’s weird, but I have it all already in my mind. So I’ve carved the plan, created templates and decided to check it in public. Once I’ve created my Social Media Kit with Design Templates, Strategy, and Plan, in three weeks people found out what I do, they started calling and messaging me and congratulating me on my huge success. I got first clients and many calls within first four weeks.
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The second message is equal to the first one.
But it has several triggers and emotional connections. It is also full of clichéd words which on one hand irritate you and on the contrary sells well; that’s why people use them.
My point is that if your final goal is to sell and if you try to share the message about it in some tricky or indirect way; you are manipulating people’s mind. It doesn’t matter if you are a corporate advertising PRO or a little boy from the post office.
And the conclusion is simple, if you are anyway going to manipulate peoples’ minds, though it sounds wrong, maybe you need to learn how to do it in a way which will be comfortable for you. Will not irritate or discourage you. Will help you to help other people to get that what they need without feeling that they were manipulated.